DOMESTIC ABUSE IS WRONG. IT IS A CRIME. THERE IS NO ACCEPTABLE LEVEL OF ABUSE.
" "

Is it happening to me?

"It took me years to recognise what it was. I was always making excuses for him. If he wasn't in work I said that he was fed up from not being in work. Then when he was in work I'd say it was because he had a hard day at work. I couldn't do anything in the house without arguments, always arguments. Excuses; all the time."

  • DOES YOUR PARTNER……
  • Always
  • Sometimes
  • Never
  • Put you down and humiliate you, in private and/or in public?
  • Hurt you physically - e.g. by hitting, slapping, kicking or biting you?
  • Make you have sex when you don't want to?
  • Control how the money is spent?
  • Not want you to have your own friends?
  • Threaten to take the children away?
  • Threaten to harm or actually harm pets?
  • Threaten to harm himself if you leave?
  • Turn into a nicer person outside the house?
  • Apologise and promise that he won’t do it again but he does
  • Destroy your things or smash up the furniture?
  • ARE YOU……
  • Afraid for yourself and/or your children?
  • Feeling guilty or ashamed about what is happening?
  • Isolated with no one to talk to?
  • Afraid to express an opinion when he is around?
  • Not beaten physically, but torn apart emotionally?
  • Hiding bruises or making excuses for injuries caused by him?
  • Finding it hard to be enthusiastic about life?
  • Always watching what you say or do so he won't get angry?
  • Feeling like you're going mad or wishing it was all over?